What is Tantric Sex?
Exploring Tantric Sex: How It Can Spice Up Your Sex Life!
When it comes to exploring your sex life, there’s one ancient practice that has gained a lot of attention in recent years: Tantric sex. Rooted in Hindu traditions, Tantra isn’t just about physical pleasure—it’s about deepening your emotional and spiritual connection with your partner. If you're looking to enhance intimacy, prolong pleasure and create a more profound bond, then Tantra might just be the key to transforming your sex life.
Here’s everything you need to know about Tantric sex!
What is Tantric Sex?
At its core, Tantric sex is about mindfulness, presence and connection. It's a practice that encourages couples to slow down, focus on their senses and engage in a more intentional and spiritually connected form of sex. Unlike traditional sex, which might focus solely on the physical or reaching orgasm quickly, Tantric sex emphasises the journey, allowing couples to savour every moment and explore deeper levels of intimacy. It originates from classical Tantra in India, but only represents a small part of the tradition. These days, the modern couple is practicing a form of Neo- Tantra, which was brought to the west in the 60’s by the Indian guru Osho.
Benefits of Tantric Sex for Couples
Enhanced Emotional Connection
One of the most significant benefits of Tantra is the emotional depth it creates. Tantric practices encourage eye contact, synchronised breathing, and slow, deliberate touch. This helps partners connect emotionally, creating a bond that goes beyond the physical. As you become more attuned to each other’s energy and emotions, you’ll find that your relationship is enriched and your intimacy grows stronger.
Increased Sensuality and Pleasure
Tantric sex focuses on deepening sensory experiences. By slowing down, you can explore each other’s bodies in new and more intimate ways. The practice emphasises touch, taste, sound, and smell, allowing you to experience each sensation more intensely. Over time, this can lead to more pleasurable experiences and heightened sexual satisfaction, as you learn to appreciate the nuances of pleasure rather than just aiming for a quick release.
Stronger Orgasms
While Tantric sex is not about rushing to orgasm, many couples report experiencing more intense, prolonged orgasms when practicing Tantra. The focus on breathwork, relaxation and energy flow allows the body to experience heightened pleasure over a longer period, leading to powerful climaxes. As you explore the practice, you may also discover the ability to have multiple orgasms or even experience spiritual orgasms, where the pleasure extends beyond the body and into a deeper, more transcendental realm.
Increased Intimacy and Trust
Tantric sex isn’t just about the physical act—it’s a profound practice of vulnerability and trust. It encourages open communication, mutual respect and a deep understanding of each other’s boundaries and desires. As you explore Tantric practices together, you'll be encouraged to share intimate thoughts and feelings, creating a more emotionally open and trusting relationship. This level of intimacy can strengthen your overall connection, making both partners feel more cherished and valued.
Tantric sex has long been celebrated for its ability to transform intimacy into something deeply spiritual and transcendent. Originating from the ancient spiritual path known as Tantra, in India, it views sexual energy not merely as a means of physical release, but as a powerful force that can be harnessed for self- discovery and even enlightenment. Unlike conventional forms of sex that often prioritises orgasm, Tantric sex is about the experience itself—cultivating energy, mindfulness, and presence throughout the process.
While traditional Tantra required years of study and preparation under a skilled master, modern interpretations of Tantric sexuality are more accessible. Today, many couples explore these teachings directly with a coach, such as myself, for personalised guidance.
What Happens During Tantric Sex?
Here are some key elements of Tantric lovemaking:
1. Awakening Kundalini Energy
One of the central practices of Tantra is the awakening of kundalini energy, often described as a dormant energy coiled at the base of the spine. By focusing on your body’s energy channels and chakras—from the perineum up to the crown of your head—you aim to open up pathways that allow this energy to rise through your body, facilitating deeper states of consciousness and pleasure during sex.
2. Slowing Down & Focusing on Sensations
Unlike traditional sex, where the goal is often to reach orgasm quickly, Tantric sex encourages slowing down and savouring every touch, kiss, and caress. It’s about tuning into the present moment and focusing on the sensations of the body, cultivating a deeper sense of mindfulness. This slower pace can lead to a more profound connection as you become fully attuned to your partner.
3. Synchronising Breathing
One of the most powerful techniques in Tantric sex is synchronised breathing. By breathing together in a slow, deep rhythm, you connect energetically with your partner. This not only helps build intimacy but also creates a harmonious flow of energy between you. Breathing together is a way to communicate without words and deeply feeling each other.
4. Tantric Massage & Sexual Healing
A key aspect of Tantric sex is building intimacy through touch. Tantric massage is designed to increase arousal and create a sense of emotional safety. By using slow, deliberate strokes, you help your partner relax, letting go of tension while increasing sensitivity. This practice can lead to heightened arousal, helping you both feel more present and attuned to one another. Lingam and Yoni (genital) massages also increase sensitivity and being touched in such a gentle, loving, honouring way, can allow for emotions that need to be felt and expressed, rise to the surface.
5. Circulating Sexual Energy
Tantra teaches that sexual energy is not just confined to the genitals—it can circulate throughout the entire body. In Tantric sex, partners focus on moving energy through their bodies through micro- cosmic orbit, often using breath, sound and movement to direct and amplify this energy.
6. Riding the Waves of Energy
In Tantric sex, the ebb and flow of energy—often described as yin/yang or masculine/feminine energy—can lead to extended pleasure. Instead of rushing toward orgasm, you "ride" the waves of sensation, allowing them to build gradually. This can lead to multiple orgasms or intense full-body experiences.
7. Altered States of Consciousness
Through deep connection, synchronised breathing and heightened sensitivity, Tantric sex often leads to altered, trance-like states. These states can feel meditative, where the mind becomes quiet and the focus is purely on feeling. In this state, couples experience a more spiritual and transcendent type of lovemaking.
8. Exploring Rituals
Rituals are an important aspect of Tantric sex. Eye-gazing, for example, is a practice where you and your partner gaze deeply into each other’s eyes, often without speaking. This ritual encourages vulnerability and builds trust. Other rituals, like unveiling, undressing, bathing, anointing, decorating, worshipping, honouring can all add a sense of sacredness.
9. The Yab-Yum Position
One of the most well-known positions in Tantric sex is the yab-yum position, where one partner sits cross-legged while the other sits on their lap, facing them. This position symbolises the union of masculine and feminine energies and is ideal for practices like synchronised breathing and chakra alignment. It’s a position that encourages deep connection and is adaptable for both mindful kissing and penetrative sex.
10. Simultaneous or Multiple Orgasms
Through the practices of energy circulation, mindfulness and delayed gratification, couples can experience extended states of pleasure that may include simultaneous or multiple orgasms. These orgasms can be less about physical release and more about a full-body, spiritual experience that transcends the typical climax.
11. A Blissful, Meditative State
The goal of Tantric sex is not just sexual release but reaching a state of bliss and tranquility after prolonged lovemaking. After experiencing deep connection and powerful orgasms, many practitioners report a sense of meditative calm and peace that lingers long after the sexual encounter. This afterglow creates a sense of unity and spiritual fulfilment between partners.
12. Surrender and Relaxation
By dropping out of the ego in sex, and more into your body and the energy, you experience a surrender of control. You learn to relax into, instead of tense into your pleasure, reducing stress and boosting vitality, life force and liberation, as you drop any goals or conditioning around sex.
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