Trauma

In life, we will all go through situations where we do not feel safe or it’s not possible to express our authentic selves. As children, when we are often punished for showing emotion, we quickly learn that not all of us is welcome, causing us to suppress and reject parts of us, that are not accepted by our caregivers. This emotion gets pushed down in the body, as it doesn’t have a healthy outlet for expression. The suppressed energy becomes bound in the tissues of the muscles as chronic tension and can stay hidden for many years. The same happens from a traumatic or perceived traumatic event, when the person is unable to process it in the moment. Trauma is a process that hasn’t been allowed to complete. It’s energy trapped in the body waiting to find release. It is now widely believed among trauma specialists like Peter Levine and Gabor Mate, that unprocessed trauma in the nervous system can manifest itself as disease and illness. We call this chronically held tension, amour or blocks.

Liberating Energy

Our lower chakras hold the densest, stuck energy. This is because the Root chakra develops from the ages of 0-7 years. Everything adverse or unwanted that happens to us during this period of life, will store a memory in the body around the anus, genitals and pelvic floor. It becomes the “garbage bin” for the subconscious.

In Tantric Bodywork, I work with the receiver to explore held tension, numbness, pain and pleasure in the central channel (Sushumna); genitals, pelvic floor, stomach, energetic heart, back & throat. I use a soft touch approach and curiosity, led by the receiver’s feedback and pace. I give space and the invitation for the emotion or memory we touch, to be expressed with consciousness & presence. Therefore the process of De-armouring is to release the armour, that is held in the contraction of the body. This often leads to a sense of expansion, relaxation, lightness, feeling energised & less pain.

We don’t always need to access the story behind this blocked energy, but letting it out will create more space for the new to enter and for energy to flow freely again within us. What we keep unconsciously repressing, gets pushed into the shadows as rejected parts of ourselves and ultimately pops up somewhere else in another form of energy. We can understand our dis-owned parts more clearly through “shadow work”, which is inspired by Jung’s work.

In Tantra, we are creating a new reality. Responding in a different way than from the past. Our old reality is imprinted on the nervous system. Our new reality is consciously created. Change your state, change your story, change the way you relate to life.

The Importance of Pleasure

Tantra wants you to expand beyond your physical boundaries & surrender to your own life force, instead of trying to control it. In Tantric bodywork, you may notice you open up more to deeper pleasure states. I work with the receiver to be present to their sensations, dropping goals around orgasm and relaxing into their arousal, as opposed to tensing & losing the energy. Moving away from a fear response of contraction to expansion. In what ways do we avoid or block ourselves from receiving pleasure? Tantric pleasure can allow us to experience a new side of ourselves, a vibrant side where we can feel bliss and the connection between our sexual & spiritual selves. This bodywork helps you to feel more grounded, embodied, loved and in touch with gratitude for life.