The Healthy Relationship Map
1:1 (Self) Love Coaching for Fearful Avoidant Women
Does this sound like you?
You’re a strong, independent woman, who is successful in work, but relationships have always been challenging.
You have a strong awareness of your patterns, therapy has helped but you still don’t see enough change.
You worry you’ll be alone forever, attracting emotionally unavailable partners, who won’t commit.
You bounce from one situation-ship to the other, never feeling truly seen or met.
You struggle to control your emotions and end up pushing people you love away.
The initial chemistry is always intense, but fails to develop into a stable relationship.
You find it hard to trust anyone and the fear of being trapped or rejected is keeping you stuck in a painful cycle.
Closeness and distance feel equally terrifying, making dating feel chaotic, attracting a lot of “push/ pull” relationships.
Imagine becoming the future version of you that has her desires
Experiencing your healthiest, most conscious relationship yet.
That’s within your control, because it starts with you.
With The Healthy Relationship Map coaching:
Release layers of shame and cultivate self compassion
Express your boundaries & needs without anger
Regulate your emotions
Accept all parts of you with love
Feel worthy of the love you desire
Cultivate self trust and trust of others
Feel free from the grips of intense fear in connection
Have a better understanding of your psychology
Commit to choosing yourself
Feel confident in your body and feminine power
You attract what you are; radically up levelling the quality and standard of partner, that comes into your life.
We focus on the relationship with you
Over 6 months, I guide you in a safe container with a focus on the body- mind connection; combining deep inner work, practical strategies and personalised support to break free from the unhealthy relating patterns, coping mechanisms and emotions running your life.
In this 1:1 coaching program, designed specifically for Fearful Avoidant women, you’ll:
Work towards secure attachment; through specific practices focused on inner security, safety & self trust
Learn to stop self abandonment
Transform fear into an open, loving heart
Identify the roots of painful patterns, transforming your love life
Understand the subconscious protective mechanisms keeping you safe, but causing you to feel disconnected and alone
Raise your sense of self worth to attract a higher standard of partner
Hand your power in dating over to your adult self, healing the wounded inner child
Stop over- functioning and relax into your feminine energy by learning to receive without guilt
Receive real- time dating advice to give you an insightful mirror into what’s actually happening versus over analysing
Learn what self love actually is
Hello, I’m Lauren!
I’m a trauma & neurodivergent informed, somatic (Self) Love Coach, passionate about helping women, who feel stuck in dating to feel empowered in relationships!
I am qualified in VITA method; Love, Sex & Relationship Coaching, as well as trained in Integrative Attachment Theory, energy medicine, tantra, bodywork and other modalities.
Inspired by my own journey in love, I coach women with painful patterns to transform in the areas of self awareness, self love and identity, through embodiment & re-wiring practices.
I spent a lot of my 20s & early 30s being highly dysregulated, pushing people away, self isolating and highly anxious in connection. My fearful avoidant attachment style made it hard to trust, feel safe or even like people. I had been born into a family of a young, mum with undiagnosed adhd and a disorganised attachment style herself and a violent, narcissistic father, who left when I was 3.
After experiencing a spiritual awakening in 2014 from Vipassana Buddhist meditation, I spent the best part of 10 years exploring spirituality in an attempt to heal myself through breathwork, plant medicine, Shamanic energy medicine, Mexican medicine, bodywork, massage, Somatic Experiencing, Tantra & therapy. I travelled to learn with different teachers and communities in Spain, Portugal, Czech Republic, Bali, Tulum, Goa, Guatemala & Costa Rica. But it wasn’t until 2024, when I trained as a coach- catalysed by an intense trauma bond in 2022, that my healing felt complete.
Being able to say that I have healed my nervous system is one of my biggest achievements. To live a life feeling regulated, safe, present, empowered and thriving is a life I didn’t know was possible. I use my embodied wisdom to hold you in your own transformation.
Fearful avoidant attachment originates in early relational environments characterised by unpredictable or frightening caregiving. Children may experience parents who are abusive, unavailable, narcissistic, addicted to substances/ alcohol or traumatised themselves. When a caregiver is simultaneously a source of comfort and threat, the child may develop fear in their attachment and go on to avoid relationships due to the pain and unmet needs they experienced when they were young. If left unchecked, those very individuals may go on to have similar experiences with romantic partners as they did with their parents.
A person with a fearful-avoidant attachment style often experiences a deep desire for love and connection alongside a strong fear of being betrayed, rejected, trapped or abandoned. Their relationships can therefore feel emotionally confusing or unpredictable.
FAs crave intimacy and reassurance, but when someone gets too close, it can feel like a threat and they can suddenly feel overwhelmed and withdraw. When distance develops, however, they may become anxious and seek the person out again. This can create a cycle of moving towards and pulling away.
They may struggle to trust others fully, often expecting relationships to end badly or believing that they are ultimately unworthy of love. They can be hyper vigilant to changes in tone, behaviour, communication or perceived rejection and may overanalyse interactions.
Emotionally, they experience intense feelings, but find them difficult to regulate or communicate. Conflict can trigger either withdrawal, defensiveness, people-pleasing or an urge to escape.
In everyday life, these patterns can extend beyond romantic relationships into friendships, family relationships and work. They may appear independent and self-sufficient, while secretly longing to feel safe in connection.
As someone who was deeply affected by this disorganised way of relating and who is now capable of secure attachment, I want to inspire you to know that it’s completely possible for you to transform too!
You do not need to have a fearful avoidant attachment style to work with me as FA is a mix of anxious & avoidant; I can also work with other attachment styles too.
What is a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?
What is Neurodivergent Informed?
While I don’t have any professional training to work with neurodivergent individuals, I do have a whole lot of life experience as an HSP & ADHD/ AuDHDer. I know what it’s like to feel rejection on an extreme level, to over think every social interaction, to live with daily anxiety and overstimulation, to struggle to regulate my emotions and to feel constantly overwhelmed by the things most people find easy. I also have the experience of being part of a neurodivergent family and the challenges that brings.
As the result of many years of somatic work, I don’t suffer with the negative impacts of these conditions anymore; so I am in a better position to support you, while still understanding the pain they cause. My personal transformation is the reason I want you to also benefit from the same nervous system healing and brain re-wiring practices I have used, so you can live a life feeling positive & empowered by your sensitivities!
You also do not need to be neurodivergent to work with me.
A tantric, somatic approach to coaching invites you to reconnect with your body, heart and innate capacity for intimacy. Through mindful movement, breathwork, meditation and subtle body awareness, you can explore the relationship between sensation, emotion and thought. Rooted in presence, compassion and curiosity, this approach invites you to slow down, listen to your body’s wisdom and cultivate deeper self understanding.
By exploring desire, vulnerability and authentic expression at your own pace, you can develop greater trust in yourself and others, opening the possibility for more conscious, embodied and fulfilling relationships.
Through this journey, you are invited to move beyond habitual patterns and discover new ways of relating to yourself and others. Somatic practices can help you recognise where tension, fear or protective responses may be held in the body, creating space for greater ease, openness and emotional freedom.
Tantra offers a pathway to embrace the whole of your experience, honouring both tenderness and strength, stillness and vitality. Rather than striving for a particular outcome, the emphasis is on dropping in to presence and listening to parts of you that are hard to hear in every day life. With compassionate guidance and respect for your individual boundaries, you can expand your capacity to give, receive & hold love, joy and pleasure.
What is a Tantric & Somatic Approach?
A Two- Fold Approach
The coaching is underpinned by neuroscience backed tools & powerful, embodiment practices.
In the first 3 months:
We work somatically to gain clarity around the parts of you that are afraid of connection or feel “too much” or “not enough”.
Through energy work, you’ll release blocks of emotion and gain awareness around the aspects of you that are subconsciously sabotaging your relationships.
You’ll regulate your nervous system, so you can start to hold and process your emotions more easily.
You’ll deepen your connection to your body, your intuition and your sense of self.
You’ll get clear on what you want as we explore your desires, non- negotiables and deal breakers.
In the last 3 months:
You re- wire core wounds and self limiting beliefs impacting your self worth and deservingness.
You’ll start to apply what you’ve learned; practising communicating your needs, boundaries and feelings.
You’ll adopt healthier coping mechanisms and learn what you need to thrive in the world.
You’ll gain the confidence to be unapologetically you & step in to your feminine power.
You’ll rewrite your love story by starting to see changes in the partners you attract.
What People Are Saying
“Lauren is a thoughtful & effective coach, who I would highly recommend to anyone. What specifically stands out about Lauren is her somatic approach. Rather than just talking through things, she guided me to notice my physical responses in real time, helping me understand the connection between my thoughts, my physical and emotional state in a way I hadn’t before. This allowed me the awareness and ability to process feelings on a much deeper level. She has a very calm, curious, and supportive presence that made it easy for me to be vulnerable, and her ability to navigate complex emotional landscapes with such care is truly impressive.”
Laura
Ready to Transform?
Book a FREE 30-minute Discovery Call to start your journey with me.
What Can I Expect?
In this 6 month container with me, we’ll not only focus on personal transformation, I’ll also give you practical dating tips and strategies to meet potential partners.
(20 × 90 minute) 1:1 Coaching Sessions on Zoom.
Self- Love Toolkit Journal prompts, desire mapping, self reflective exercises, breath work, embodiment practices, parts work, meditations and visualisations.
Personalised guidance creating a roadmap to becoming more securely attached, embodied & empowered.
Weekly, accountability check-ins on email and/ or Whatsapp.
Homework to keep you motivated between sessions.
Actionable steps to complement your inner work.
6 months of support holding your desire at the forefront, every step of the way.
1:1 Somatic Love Coaching
INVESTMENT
£3,000
+ VAT
(Payment Plans Available)
The 1:1 Healthy Relationship Map is for you if…
You’re ready to become the most authentic, happy & loving version of yourself.
You’re done attracting the wrong people and looping in painful emotions and thought patterns.
You want a secure, consistent and safe relationship.
You’ve got the awareness; talk therapy has helped, but is limited and you want a more holistic approach with a coach who gets you.
You’re ready to stop feeling anxious in dating and gain the tools to feel secure.
You want a deeper connection to your body, so you can start trusting your own intuition.
Ready to Transform your Love Life?
End the emotional rollercoaster and attract a love that feels safe.
Book a free call with me today!
FAQs
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No, it’s not necessary. You can use the coaching to prepare yourself before actually dating! Then you will feel more than ready to date!
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After every session, I give you inner and outer steps to practice, to get closer to achieving your goal! It’s up to you, how much effort you put in to reaching your dating and love goals.
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Yes, I offer messaging/ voice note support to clients who need it, before, after & during dates!
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Coaching sessions are 3 times a month, with a 1 week break for integration for the 6 month program. Sessions are 90 mins on Zoom.
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Yes, absolutely! I will give you an intake form to fill out before we start, to get an idea of what tools may or may not benefit you. Everyone can do somatic work on some level.
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Coaching with a Tantric approach means talking about sex, sexuality and pleasure is a possibility. It may also mean I give you a piece of homework, that includes a tantric practice or I guide you through a practice, which incorporates Tantric principles or teachings. This is optional.
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The 1:1 Love Coaching program mainly focuses on your personal development (through self awareness and healing), however I do offer some practical dating tips, as well as self regulation tools for when you need help to feel calm on dates.
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Yes, absolutely. You pay an initial deposit, then instalments to follow, while we work with each other. Ask me for more details.
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While the coaching program can prepare you for love and relationship, through transforming the relationship you have with yourself, I cannot guarantee any results.
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While there are similar components to therapy, my coaching is not designed to replace therapy. I am trauma informed, but if you have unprocessed trauma, I recommend seeking therapy first or alongside the coaching.
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